Month: September 2012

Children, Parents and Schools

Children should feel to their parents a disembarasses harbor. Parents in turn, must be present in school only that by actions require the school you avoid the occurrence of the phenomenon. Parents should help to their children and help the school meet the challenge of overcoming bullying. Key-words: bullying, family, prevention, detection, coping Introduction The aggressive behavior between students is a universal problem, manifestation innocently considered by the adults as tricks of the age. Studies carried through in the two last decades had demonstrated that the practical one of the violence between students can have negative consequncias for all the involved children and adolescents. The adoption of projects continued in schools has demonstrated to be one of the measures more effective in the prevention and the reduction of the violence between pupils, however where it is the paper of the parents in the prevention, the detention and the confrontation of the problem before it if aggravates? One understands for bullying all the forms of aggressive, intentional and repeated attitudes, adopted for one or more students against another one (s), causing pain and anguish, and executed inside of a different relation of being able.

Therefore, the acts repeated between pairs (students) and the disequilibrium of being able are the essential characteristics, that become possible the intimidation of the victim (OLWEUS, 1993). Researchers around of the world have directed its studies for this phenomenon that takes aspects each time more preoccupying, as much for its growth, how much for reaching etrias bands, each time lower, relative to the first years of escolaridade (LOPES GRANDSON, 2005). The violent behavior results of the interaction between the individual development and the social contexts, as the family, the school, the church, the media and community. Unhappyly, the model of the exterior world is reproduced in the schools, that if characterize as a great laboratory for the children and young, therefore is where they coexist its pairs, making with that these institutions leave of being surrounding insurances, modulated for it disciplines and cooperation, and if they transform into spaces marked for the violence, suffering and fear.

The School

Moving away itself from its family and the net of characteristic neighborhood of the zone agricultural and of the small localities, the mother did not have plus who helped it to take care of of its children. From there, the necessity to count on day-care centers and daily pay-schools to leave the children. To the families of middle class and upper middle, the formal education, that is managed by the school, started to be plus a consumer good. On account of the time that is absent, it are of house, the parents wait that the school plays the role that fits to them, delegating it them functions that would be of them. Since they pay therefore they find that the school has that to make responsible for this work. The parents deliver the children and want that the school speaks, for they, on its children. Sheep (2005, p.12) says that: ' ' this wants to say that the children are not being seen for the parents, who the parents do not observe its children, do not know regarding them ' '. Coast (2003, P.

2) standes out that: ' ' If you do not have capacity to integrate that son as part of its life, then she does not have son. To have son today does not mean only joy. It means to sign one promissory note that you only rescue when morre' '. It seems that, although all the transformations, the family of the pupil, independent of its social classroom, cannot be exempted of its paper and of its responsibility and the school must help it in this. Sacristn (1999) affirmed that the quarrel on the paper of the family in the formation of the citizens is essential to understand the new configurations of being able in the education. Models of interaction between the families and the pertaining to school system are being facts, and include the revision in the way as the school has functioned and of the estimated ones that they endorse the intervention in it.